You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know…

During my undergraduate degree I spent a lot of time studying. The thing was, most of that time was spent studying poker.

Along with the game itself I dove into psychology, learning, emotional control and meditation. A lesson that stuck with me long after hanging up the poker hat was about the four stages of competence. The concept in poker was to move skills to unconscious competence a state where even the most emotionally frustrating situation (losing a ‘bad beat’, not dissimilar to an unreasonably difficult patient) would not affect the core skill. It was unconsciously working.

You Don’t Need Everyone to Love You

In school and university we fall into groups. Social groups, where the majority of people have similar personalities, values and interests.

And then there are a few people who you just don’t get along with. You’re friendly and civilised but you don’t hang out in your free time. This is natural, mutual and okay.

Yet we go into clinical practice and feel the weight of impressing every patient on our shoulders. We can have a fantastic day full of wonderful patients and then have one who we just don’t gel with ruin it.